The Fragrance of Life

He scrunched up his face and pulled away as I leaned down to hug him good night. It had happened before and I wondered what his reasons were. Had something happened to hurt his little heart that day? Was he scared of me?

Does he not understand just how much I love him?

Adoption parenting has had it’s difficult moments. I’ve often wished I could view the thoughts running around inside their minds, to understand them just a little better, to know why he didn’t want to hug me that night. I kissed his cheek and whispered “I love you.” as I turned out the lights.

A few evenings later they splashed around in the bath, making “bubble beards” and giggling at themselves in the mirror. I pulled out their bottle of watermelon body wash and realized it was empty. They would have to use mine. Lavender.

He scrunched up his face and pulled away as I leaned over the edge of the tub to help him wash.

The beautiful, fresh scent of lavender.

That was why he didn’t want to hug me good night. It was the nights I had showered before putting them to bed, instead of after. He was turned away by the unfamiliar fragrance.

He didn’t know the beauty that created that scent. 
He wasn’t familiar with the fresh aroma of new life found in the newly bloomed, spring flowers. 
He didn’t understand that God had created the fragrance of lavender to be extraordinary.

Until I told him. And I showed him the little buds in a sachet tucked into one of my drawers. And I brought out photos of the dainty flowers stretched out across beautiful fields.



Then he understood.
He cleansed his little body from head to toe and breathed in the aroma with a smile.
And he hugged me good night.

through us (God) spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life. 2 Cor. 2:14-16

Have you told them? Just how beautiful Christ is!
Have you shown them? The fresh aroma of new life in you!
God created you to be an extraordinary fragrance, my friend.

8 thoughts on “The Fragrance of Life”

  1. Laurel~ I know you can relate… Isn't it awesome when God reveals Himself to us through adoption and our kids?! Love you!

    Mary, Janet and Sherry~ I'm on my way to visit your sites soon. Thanks for visiting and leaving me a comment!

    Rebecca~ There is no obstacle He can't overcome if adoption is His will for your family. Keep following Him! Keep trusting Him!!

    Denise~ Thank you for always encouraging me, even when you don't know how much you've done so! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your blog! Everyone go visit her! Really!

    Kristina~ I love you my sweet friend. Thanks for sharing my post on FB today too. Come visit us soon!

  2. you are so good to seek to understand your son. may God continue to bless you, give you wisdom, and lead you (the fragrance of Christ) in his love.

  3. What a powerful post! What a blessing to see the arms of Christ reach out and take care of the orphans. MY husband and I are considering adoption. We fear, we will not make it past several obstacles, but if it is God's will, we know he will make it happen. Your new child is so blessed….oh, the hurt and pain of being an orphan, to not trust new arms that want to and love you…the pain that must be hidden. What a beautiful heart you have… look past the pain. Stopping by and joining your blog from the Hip HOmeschool Hop!

  4. Beautiful! I so relate to those moments. It is a wonderful thing when we finally realize why he does certain things so we can help him understand and deal with life. Beautiful post.

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